🙈 The Shame of Wanting a Provider in Public — and Needing One in Private
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Real Talk you were never supposed to admit out loud.
Out loud, you say things like:
“I got it.”
“I’m good on my own.”
“I’m not looking for someone to take care of me.”
But behind closed doors?
You’re doing mental gymnastics to cover rent.
You’re whispering prayers before swiping your card.
You’re holding your breath when the light bill hits harder than expected.
And deep down?
You don’t just want a provider —
You need one.
But you’ve been shamed out of saying that out loud.
💭 You Want Help — But You’ve Been Trained to Hide That
Somewhere along the way, “wanting help” got twisted into “being weak.”
You were taught to split, even when it hurt.
You were told not to be “that girl” — the one who expects too much.
You learned to pretend needing a man was the same as being dependent on one.
So you perform independence — while secretly praying someone shows up who says:
“You don’t have to carry all this alone.”
💸 Public Power, Private Panic
You look good. You smile often. You don’t complain.
But your finances are on fire.
Your nervous system is fried.
And the one man who offered support? You ghosted him out of shame.
Because asking for help feels like exposure.
And even though you crave a provider, you tell yourself:
“I’ll wait until I have my own first.”
“I don’t want to owe anyone anything.”
“I need to make sure I’m not just using him.”
But here’s the truth:
You’re not using anyone.
You’re exhausted from being used by life.
🧠 This Isn’t About Laziness — It’s About How You’ve Been Conditioned
Men are praised for wanting to provide.
Women are punished for wanting to receive.
So when you admit you want a provider, people act like:
You’re a gold digger
You’re not ambitious enough
You’re setting women back 50 years
But let’s be real:
You’re still working.
You’re still carrying.
You’re still doing the most — alone.
And if a good man wants to step in and offer relief?
You shouldn’t feel ashamed to say yes.
💔 You’re Not Weak for Needing Help — You’re Human
There’s no trophy for struggling silently.
There’s no award for pretending you don’t need what you absolutely do.
So stop telling the world you’re fine.
Start telling yourself the truth:
“I want to be taken care of — and I’m not ashamed of that anymore.”
Because the truth is…
You weren’t made to carry everything.
You were made to be loved, helped, seen, and supported.
💬 Final Thought:
Stop performing strength to protect an image that’s costing you your peace.
You don’t have to apologize for needing a man who can hold it down — not just hold you at night.
You’re not less than. You’re not shallow. You’re not weak.
You’re just tired of pretending that you can afford to be strong forever.
And when you finally say it out loud?
That’s when you open the door for the help you’ve been praying for in private.